PolySoCal
PolySoCal — your invitation to look behind closed doors and into the real worlds, bedrooms, and living rooms of ethical non-monogamy. Whether you're just beginning to explore or already living this lifestyle, you'll find something here: real voices, honest stories, and grounded insights from couples and polycules navigating love, growth, and connection beyond the traditional mold.
We talk about what it actually means to practice ENM—with care, clarity, and consent. From communication tools and emotional challenges to joy, jealousy, conflict, breakthroughs, and deep relational wins, this podcast is your companion in learning, evolving, and staying connected through it all.
Come curious. Leave connected.
Episodes
38 episodes
Can You Come and Go? Belonging and Boundaries in Poly Communities
In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores a deceptively simple question: can people move in and out of poly relationships and communities, or does belonging create deeper responsibilities? The conversation looks at how connection, identi...
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Season 1
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Episode 38
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44:35
Love Languages & Attachments with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about love languages, attachment needs, and how people experience connection in relationships. The discussion explores the limitations of rigid love language c...
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Season 1
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Episode 37
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45:02
Compersion, Envy, and Jealousy: Understanding the Emotional Landscape
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel takes a focused look at three emotions central to polyamorous relationships: compersion, envy, and jealousy. The conversation explores how these feelings differ, how they often overlap, and how timing, commu...
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Season 1
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Episode 36
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43:56
Submission, Identity, and Finding Yourself with Max
In this deep dive episode, Max shares his personal journey through submission, identity, and self discovery. He speaks openly about his experience with hypnosis, kink, and emotional connection, explaining how submission is not about weakn...
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Season 1
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Episode 35
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43:20
Sex and Connection with Kevin Anthony
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Kevin Anthony (Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and host of The Love Lab Podcast) for an open, practical conversation about intimacy, communication, and emotional connec...
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Season 1
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Episode 32
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50:20
Dreams, Desire, and the Unconscious with Dr. Deborah Lukovich
In this deep dive episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Deborah Lukovich for a wide-ranging conversation about dreams, desire, projection, and the unconscious forces shaping our relationships.Dr. Lukovich explores how dream imagery...
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Season 1
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Episode 34
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1:00:50
From Burnout to Intimacy with Brianna Bass
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Brianna Bass, therapist and board certified clinical sexologist, for a deep, practical conversation about burnout, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and how relationship patterns show up under stres...
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Season 1
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Episode 31
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50:20
A Deep Dive into Individuation with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal returns for a deeper, more personal conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton, exploring individuation, depth psychology, meaning making, and how these concepts intersect with polyamory and modern relationships.<...
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Season 1
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Episode 33
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57:20
Jealousy Isn’t the Enemy with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Dr. Joli Hamilton, a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and AASECT - certified sex educator whose doctoral research focuses on jealousy and consensual non monogamy. The panel explores what ...
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Season 1
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Episode 30
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56:16
Depth Psychology: with Dr. Deborah Lukovich
In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel is joined by Dr. Deborah Lukovich, depth psychology coach, author, and host of the Dose of Depth podcast. The conversation explores depth psychology, the unconscious, midlife unraveling, p...
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Season 1
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Episode 29
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53:56
Will Ethical Non Monogamy Change the World?
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores a big question: Is ethical non monogamy on the rise, and could it actually change the world? The conversation looks at cultural shifts, generational differences, accessibility through the i...
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Season 1
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Episode 28
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36:20
Structured vs Unstructured Time
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores the difference between structured time and unstructured time in polyamorous relationships, and why both matter. The conversation digs into intentionality, spontaneity, coexisting versu...
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Season 1
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Episode 27
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36:30
Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Jim Fleckenstein
In this episode of PolySoCal, we welcome relationship expert Jim Fleckenstein for an in-depth conversation on emotional intelligence, jealousy, conflict resolution, and communication within polyamorous and non-traditional relationships.<...
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Season 1
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Episode 26
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51:36
25 Episodes of Love, Growth, and Finding Our Voices
This milestone episode celebrates 25 weeks of honest conversations, community bonding, and emotional evolution on the PolySoCal Podcast. The cast reflects on how being part of the show has changed them from deeper communication and personal con...
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Season 1
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Episode 25
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39:56
Wingmanning Stories
This episode dives into the chaotic world of wingmanning and wingwomaning in polyamorous dating. The cast shares real-life stories of how helping a partner flirt can easily turn into blocking them instead. There is a strong mix of humor and tru...
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Season 1
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Episode 24
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26:56
Gratitude, Healing, and the Power of Being Thankful
This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Theme...
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Season 1
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Episode 23
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44:00
Aging, Desire, and the Changing Shape of Intimacy
this episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy betwee...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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49:52
What Does Sexual Safety Mean?
The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom o...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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40:38
Patty: Lessons in Love and Longevity
In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty, a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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35:20
Is Poly Kinky? — Where Love, Labels, and Laughter Collide
One of the most spirited PolySoCal roundtables yet, exploring the question: Do you have to be kinky to be poly? and Isn’t poly just swinging, anyway?What begins as a lighthearted discussion quickly evolves into a candid...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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35:00
Feeling Secure — Building Safety and Trust in Poly Relationships
In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussi...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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44:38
New Relationship Energy — The High, the Hurt, and the Balance
The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max,...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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39:57
Cupcake: Becoming My Authentic Self
In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake, one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from ...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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39:40
What makes someone feel truly ‘part of the community
In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake, this ep...
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Season 1
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Episode 15
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37:10
