PolySoCal
PolySoCal — your invitation to look behind closed doors and into the real worlds, bedrooms, and living rooms of ethical non-monogamy. Whether you're just beginning to explore or already living this lifestyle, you'll find something here: real voices, honest stories, and grounded insights from couples and polycules navigating love, growth, and connection beyond the traditional mold.
We talk about what it actually means to practice ENM—with care, clarity, and consent. From communication tools and emotional challenges to joy, jealousy, conflict, breakthroughs, and deep relational wins, this podcast is your companion in learning, evolving, and staying connected through it all.
Come curious. Leave connected.
Episodes
47 episodes
Going back to Monogamy
Can someone be polyamorous for years and then return to monogamy? In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores what happens when relationship styles change over time. Some guests believe that once you've experienced loving multiple people, tha...
When Poly Becomes a Reason to Avoid Intimacy
Is polyamory a path toward deeper connection, or can it become a clever way to avoid it altogether? This week the table welcomes Michael for his first appearance alongside regulars Dahlia and Noah, and the conversation goes straight at one of t...
Making It Work: The Kink Collective
What does it actually look like when three people build a real life together? Not the theory, not the fantasy, the dishwasher, the finances, the king size bed, the moment someone asks if you want to wear a ring. Alonzo sits down with Kat, Joshu...
Endings in a Polyamorous Web of Links
In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores one of the hardest realities in ethical non monogamy: endings. When relationships become deeply interconnected, breakups can affect far more than just two people. The conversation examines how po...
What Does Commitment Actually Mean Here?
Everyone talks about commitment in relationships, but what does it actually mean when you have more than one? Is it implied or does it have to be stated out loud? Can you even cheat in a poly relationship? This episode the PolySoCal roundtable ...
Protecting Your Poly Family, The Legal Truth
Most poly families are one crisis away from a legal nightmare — and they don't know it. In this episode, Alonzo sits down with attorney Toby Adams, who has spent 14 years specializing in family law and estate planning exclusively for poly...
The moment you realize your life no longer fits the relationship you built.
In this deeply personal episode of PolySoCal, Noah and Cookie share the story of how they transitioned from long term monogamous marriages into a polyamorous BDSM relationship. The conversation explores repression, incompatibility, fear, guilt,...
Poly Meets Kink: Where Do the Lines Actually Exist?
In this episode, PolySoCal brings in an East Coast triad to explore the intersection of polyamory and kink. The conversation dives into whether poly is inherently kinky, how BDSM frameworks influence communication and structure, and where emoti...
The Hard Parts of Poly and Why We Stay
In this roundtable episode of PolySoCal, the group takes an honest look at the harder side of polyamory. While the community often celebrates the freedom and connection that poly relationships can bring, the panel digs into the realities that c...
Can You Come and Go? Belonging and Boundaries in Poly Communities
In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores a deceptively simple question: can people move in and out of poly relationships and communities, or does belonging create deeper responsibilities? The conversation looks at how connection, identi...
Love Languages & Attachments with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about love languages, attachment needs, and how people experience connection in relationships. The discussion explores the limitations of rigid love language c...
Compersion, Envy, and Jealousy: Understanding the Emotional Landscape
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel takes a focused look at three emotions central to polyamorous relationships: compersion, envy, and jealousy. The conversation explores how these feelings differ, how they often overlap, and how timing, commu...
Submission, Identity, and Finding Yourself with Max
In this deep dive episode, Max shares his personal journey through submission, identity, and self discovery. He speaks openly about his experience with hypnosis, kink, and emotional connection, explaining how submission is not about weakn...
Sex and Connection with Kevin Anthony
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Kevin Anthony (Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and host of The Love Lab Podcast) for an open, practical conversation about intimacy, communication, and emotional connec...
Dreams, Desire, and the Unconscious with Dr. Deborah Lukovich
In this deep dive episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Deborah Lukovich for a wide-ranging conversation about dreams, desire, projection, and the unconscious forces shaping our relationships.Dr. Lukovich explores how dream imagery...
From Burnout to Intimacy with Brianna Bass
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Brianna Bass, therapist and board certified clinical sexologist, for a deep, practical conversation about burnout, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and how relationship patterns show up under stres...
A Deep Dive into Individuation with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal returns for a deeper, more personal conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton, exploring individuation, depth psychology, meaning making, and how these concepts intersect with polyamory and modern relationships.<...
Jealousy Isn’t the Enemy with Dr. Joli Hamilton
In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Dr. Joli Hamilton, a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and AASECT - certified sex educator whose doctoral research focuses on jealousy and consensual non monogamy. The panel explores what ...
Depth Psychology: with Dr. Deborah Lukovich
In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel is joined by Dr. Deborah Lukovich, depth psychology coach, author, and host of the Dose of Depth podcast. The conversation explores depth psychology, the unconscious, midlife unraveling, p...
Will Ethical Non Monogamy Change the World?
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores a big question: Is ethical non monogamy on the rise, and could it actually change the world? The conversation looks at cultural shifts, generational differences, accessibility through the i...
Structured vs Unstructured Time
In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores the difference between structured time and unstructured time in polyamorous relationships, and why both matter. The conversation digs into intentionality, spontaneity, coexisting versu...
Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Jim Fleckenstein
In this episode of PolySoCal, we welcome relationship expert Jim Fleckenstein for an in-depth conversation on emotional intelligence, jealousy, conflict resolution, and communication within polyamorous and non-traditional relationships.<...
25 Episodes of Love, Growth, and Finding Our Voices
This milestone episode celebrates 25 weeks of honest conversations, community bonding, and emotional evolution on the PolySoCal Podcast. The cast reflects on how being part of the show has changed them from deeper communication and personal con...
Wingmanning Stories
This episode dives into the chaotic world of wingmanning and wingwomaning in polyamorous dating. The cast shares real-life stories of how helping a partner flirt can easily turn into blocking them instead. There is a strong mix of humor and tru...
Gratitude, Healing, and the Power of Being Thankful
This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Theme...
